Matthew 6:14-15
14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

I wonder how many Christians consider or have considered unforgiveness could possibly be a stalemate for growth in our walk with Christ. Or at least be a barrier for growth in the area where the unforgivness is. Have anyone considered how unforgiveness can weigh you down or possibly be the cause for a heavy burden. I don’t know about anyone else but when I have unforgiveness in my heart, it makes it easier to carry grudges and be discontent with any and everyone. It just makes my heart heavy and burdensome.

Many people who have heard my testimony know that I was raised in an alcoholic, abusive home. This and his abuse of my mother was the cause of my dad and I having severed our relationship after I left home for the US Marine Corps. I didn’t just sever the relationship, I downright hated the man and believed my anger, rage and hate was all justified. Well long story short, in more ways than not, I grew to be a lot like him. I carried all that bitterness throughout life in and out of my relationships and always wondered why none ever lasted. To be truthful how he was to me I was the same way to the people in my life. Another truth to be told I considered myself to be a Christian that just couldn’t stop using drugs.

My journey began with forgiveness when homeless in my mothers living room I had hit my bottom. God met me at the doors of Celebrate Recovery in 2009. A friend of mine gave me a study guide about Identity In Christ that I started working, and in there it started talking about forgiveness. I knew I had unforgiveness in my heart towards my father. God started speaking to my heart about forgiving my dad, but there was one major problem, my father had passed a few short years prior and I had recently found out about it. So how can you forgive a dead man was my thoughts. This is what I believe God spoke to my heart “ how can I forgive you if you won’t forgive your father?” I dropped to my knees crying asking the Lord, Father God to please forgive me and my unforgiveness. I got up from there and a huge burden appeared to be lifted off my shoulders and knew at that time that all my sins were forgiven. There was no questioning it and thus was the start of my journey with forgiveness, submitting my life to Christ and with the help of Celebrate Recovery. So if you have unforgiveness in your heart seek the Lord asking Him to speak to you, to help you have a forgiving heart, where there is unforgiveness. When I did I was freed of that bitterness and a heavy burden was lifted off my heart…


© Copyright By Bart Hickey, All Rights Reserved, 2011, 2012, 2013 and 2014


  1. Equipping The Saints says:

    Thank you for your thoughts. Forgiveness is truly a burden lifter of our soul. Please have a blessed day.

  2. Ron Graham says:

    Unforgiveness will kill our walk with the Lord! Only loving like our Lord love us and mankind will grow us in Him.


  3. I have found in my own life that God’s grace enables us to forgive the unforgivable.

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